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Whenever anyone has called me a bitch, I have taken it as a compliment. To me, a bitch is assertive, unapologetic, demanding, intimidating, intelligent, fiercely protective, in control--all very positive attributes. But it's not supposed to be a compliment, because there's that old, stupid double standard: When men are aggressive and dominant, they are admired, but when a woman possesses those same qualities, she is dismissed and called a bitch.from the Foreword to bitchfest: Ten Years of Cultural Criticism from the Pages of Bitch Magazine
These days, I strive to be a bitch, because not being one sucks. Not being a bitch means not having your voice heard. Not being a bitch means you agree with all the bullshit. Not being a bitch means you don't appreciate all the other bitches who have come before you. Not being a bitch means since Eve ate that apple, we will forever have to pay for her bitchiness with complacence, obedience, acceptance, closed eyes, and open legs.
There is a dangerous myth going around this country that sexism doesn't exist anymore, that we have gotten past it and that "alarmist" feminists are an outdated nuisance. Warnings like "Oh, watch out--here comes the feminazi!" abound in our culture, as if for a woman, entitling yourself to an opinion puts you on a par with followers of the Third Reich.